Jenny Cram - a
very different celebrant
I'm NOT going to tell you I'm awesome, or funny, or quirky,
or hip, or vibrant. It's not about me, it's about you
Your ceremony. Your day. Your style. I can be all of those
things, but really, what matters is that I will make sure
that your ceremony includes only what you want.
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AUSTRALIA VOTED YES. NOW WHAT?
next step is for Parliament to pass legislation
that amends the Marriage Act to allow couples
who do not fit into the current narrow "a man
and a woman" definition, to legally marry.
Once that happens, and the
consequent administrative changes have been made
to forms, the legal side of getting married is
And then, you get to live
happily ever after as Mrs&Mrs, Mr&Mr, or
Mr&Mrs, as the case may be.
- You have to give Notice of
your intention to marry to your celebrant at
least a full calendar month before the big
- You have show your
celebrant proof of your date and place of
birth (birth certificate or passport),
together with photo ID.
- If either of you has been
married before you have to show proof of how
that marriage ended (divorce or death
- You have to sign a
Declaration of No Legal Impediment to the
marriage quite close to the big day
- On the day you have to have
two adult witnesses present. They do not
have to be Australian citizens or residents.
- You have to say certain
words to create the marriage (presumably
these will be somewhat changed from the
current mandatory words)
- You, your witnesses and the
celebrant have sign the Register and the
- Without insisting that you devote hours and hours to
meeting with me, I spend time getting to know you, both
face-to-face and through other means, and time putting
that knowledge to good use when I am developing a
ceremony that reflects who you are.
- Your ceremony will make the guests feel included, part
of the occasion and not just an audience. I interact
with them, as well as with you. And I ensure there are
opportunities for you to interact with them as well.
- I don't have my head buried in my script throughout -
but nor do I wing it on the day.
- I won't insert anything that is solely designed as an
opportunity for me to shine. I repeat it's
not about me, it's about you
- I won't force you to do anything you don't want to do
(except the legal bits if you are getting married - but
that's not me insisting, it is the law and my job isn't
to make you comply, it is to red card you if you don't)
- I'll work with your photographer and videographer to
make sure your photos/videos are fabulous (and that no
celebrant body parts get in the way)
- and I won't recycle tired old words that someone else
has written (have you noticed how often you recognise
the words in so many ceremonies - and I'm not talking
about for better for worse, for richer for poorer, I'm
talking about all the other words in the ceremony.)
With me as your celebrant the lead-up to your ceremony will
be relaxed, stress-free, and fun. On the day your ceremony
won't be a ho-hum experience incorporating outdated gender
stereotypes, (which the average wedding ceremony, or, to be
brutally honest, average commitment ceremony for same sex
couples) almost depends on.
Nor will your ceremony include tired old rituals or
long-winded readings used as fillers, a blow-by-blow account
of how you met and the daily details of your relationship,
or presumptuous and boring lectures.
And where you want to be married but your legal or ID
documentation situation is tricky not a problem. I know the
Marriage Act inside out and if anyone can make your marriage
happen, it is me.
My aim is that you have a ceremony that is perfect for you,
that no-one looks at their watch, and everyone goes away
saying "that was so them...
." so I take a very
creative approach to fusing tradition (a much or as little
as you want) with your personal style to create a
contemporary personal ceremony. I will manage your ceremony, conduct it with warmth
and good humour, but do nothing to make myself the centre
of attention - this is your day, you will be centre-stage.
It IS all about you